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Turning Point–45th excerpt of Out of Restraints
Pain into Ritual as a Turning point If there’s to be a crucial Turning Point in the Heart-drama, if we are not just playing with a detour that returns us to the well-worn spot where we started, then we will need to embrace some daily rituals. The heart of any action...
Pain into Ritual 44th excerpt Out of Restraints
X Pain into Ritual The P in EXPAND “We are lived by powers we pretend to understand.” Auden Now that we see the barriers as energy-forms which enter our inner and outer stage, now that we understand “the problem,” the question becomes, “What next?” As I will use the...
The Shopkeeper 43rd excerpt–Out of Restraints
The Shopkeeper Normalizing, Obedient, Opportunistic “Stated a bit differently, (Stanley) Milgram revealed that for a remarkable number of people, it is very difficult to disobey authority figures, but quite easy for them to set aside their conscience.” ...
Enactment of Cruelty 42nd excerpt Out of Restraints
Inner/Relational Fragmentation— Enactment of Cruelty Hunters The hunters are firing their guns around our house again. They are down in the thick brush, the darker slopes. I haven’t seen all the predator’s faces, but I find comfort To think I know the type, on their...
The Android–41st excerpt Out of Restraints
Veiled Enactment of Superiority Robotic, Abandoning, Still Androids don’t care what happens to other androids . . .that’s one of the indications we look for. Phillip K. Dick, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sleep? This image depicts two well-prepared adults in...
IX Fallen Relationship–40th excerpt Out of Restraints
X-posing the Fallen Relationship Enactment of Selfishness The Colonizer Triangulating, Opportunistic, Gaslighting We observe certain constellations of family interactions which we have epitomized as the pattern of family interdependence, roles those of destroyer or...
Deflation at Depth excerpt 39th–Out of Restraints
The Addict Detached, Entranced, Delusional The important question isn’t why the addiction, but why the pain? Gabor Mate The Addict has lost his electric high. In his own mind, he is a King, and he can still seem exotic to his citizenry. From the outside, he may be a...
Enactment of Busyness excerpt 38 Out of Restraints
External/Individual Enactment of Busyness FEAR slithers forth in an adaptive shape—in the fallen world and in the story that I am banished. In every family and extinction period, the inflamed limbic system Is handed down from generation to generation like a trophy....
The Outcast excerpt 37th Out of Restraints
The Outcast Fearful, Exposed, Lost Some individuals experience a mismatch wherein the nervous system appraises the environment as dangerous, even when it’s safe. This mismatch results in physiological states that support fight, flight, or freeze behaviors....
X-posing excerpt 36th Out of Restraints
X-posing the Fallen Individual Inner Enactment of Avoidance Flickering Triggers The way passion glows sometimes in its exquisite sculptured lamp glass over the stair-well, lights up but flickers. or it’s stuck on, or is unresponsive or it’s all of this at once, to...