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What Fox Knows About Mating on the Left

What Fox Knows About Mating on the Left

They will deny completely that they have a paralyzed arm and if forced to move it, they will say, "there, I just moved it," while nothing moved.  Iian McGilchrist Two psychiatrists walk into a therapist's office....This is not the beginning of a joke. Married a few...

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Android Family of Origin

Android Family of Origin

There are times I think it might be preferable to be a machine, a robot, an android. Such beings (or non-humans) can evaluate at length what is in front of them, set an agenda that will be followed unvaryingly. They stay-narrowly focused on the appearance of things as...

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Mating in the Left Hemisphere

Mating in the Left Hemisphere

(A woman comes into the frame, smiling.) “Good morning,” she says with a light but husky voice. “This morning we are in the booming Horse Shoe arts district, in North Carolina, which reminds me so much of Venice, Italy, minus the canals and contributions to the...

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The Outsider-Trauma by Omission

The Outsider-Trauma by Omission

The drama is a little slippery. The title the Protagonist provides at the start suggests some kind of crushing force at work. The point of a title is to give some sense of what is to come, but in the enactment the family is presented as loving and well meaning. We...

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Witness to the Child

Witness to the Child

Jacob Morena, the inventor of Psychodrama, described a “surplus reality,” where much of the deep work takes place. By surplus, he meant that the enactments occur anywhere the imagination invents, in fantasy, on strange unearthly worlds, as symbolic representations, in...

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Playing at Love-The Outcast

Playing at Love-The Outcast

Playing at Love suggests a person looking for a hookup perhaps, or “playing the field,” not willing to commit. They seem to be playing you, which results in an inevitable heartache if you are looking for something serious. But I mean Playing at Love as an attachment...

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Talking Crows/Trauma Drama-Part 2

Talking Crows/Trauma Drama-Part 2

The Shadow is not necessarily always an opponent…like any human being with whom one has to get along, sometimes by giving in, sometimes by resisting, sometimes by giving love.      Marie-Louis von Franz Still in the bathroom, one moment I was yelling with the voice of...

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Talking Crows/Trauma Drama

Talking Crows/Trauma Drama

Drugs are a window but not a door. Ram Dass I will assume you know psychedelics have been used in trauma research recently, which might seem a radical idea but in fact it’s a really old idea. As a therapist, being able to bill for such work as a regular part of our...

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