Ray Holland Blog

Betrayal Trauma

No one yelled, “FBI!” before her betrayal barged into your careful routines to take you prisoner, No knocking on the door, no warning, no accommodation, no time to get dressed or time for your disbelief to catch up to being swatted as the front door is left split in...

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Empire Burns

Empire Burns

  January 2025 As the Mills River Fire substation burned, I was thinking about Terrance McKenna describing the dangers of DMT as death by astonishment. And thinking about Donald J. Trump becoming president again, and remembering how the boundary dissolving of...

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When Divorce is Like a High Dose of DMT

Terence McKenna described psychoactive plants as boundary-dissolving, allowing you (forcing you) to step out of the headset and step back, making it easier to see what has been driving you (the machinery of culture, multigenerational family rules and expectations,...

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Resistance wants to kill the drama.

And once you are awake, you shall remain awake eternally. ” ― Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra - A Book For All And None I can’t go there. There is no point in going there. I will be overwhelmed. I will look ridiculous, weak and full of self-pity. I will...

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Counseling/Coaching statement

Let me cut through the nonsense. What I will do for you. I am trained in various forms of couple’s therapy, and I will encourage the Prepare/Enrich online assessment to clarify needs and strengths, so we have clear objectives from the start. This modality always works...

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