Ray Holland Blog

When Divorce is Like a High Dose of DMT

Terence McKenna described psychoactive plants as boundary-dissolving, allowing you (forcing you) to step out of the headset and step back, making it easier to see what has been driving you (the machinery of culture, multigenerational family rules and expectations,...

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Resistance wants to kill the drama.

I can’t go there. There is no point in going there. I will be overwhelmed. I will look ridiculous, weak and full of self-pity. I will just be pathetic if I look like I am still holding on the past, blaming people who have already died or who radically changed or who...

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Counseling/Coaching statement

Let me cut through the nonsense. What I will do for you. I am trained in various forms of couple’s therapy, and I will encourage the Prepare/Enrich online assessment to clarify needs and strengths, so we have clear objectives from the start. This modality always works...

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Quality of Inspiration Pervasive

Quality of Inspiration Pervasive

Pervasive Pervasive, Symbolic, Enlarged A theology of immanence means treating each thing, animate and inanimate…natural and mand-made, as if it were alive, requiring what each living thing requires above all else: careful attention to its’ properties, their specific...

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Quality of Inspiration Energetic

Quality of Inspiration Energetic

Energetic   Cunning Unleashed, Penetrating   Hunters prefer to believe in their destructive illusions and ego-invented creeds and are blind to the mammalian need to love the world. But the Queen of the forest long ago recognized their selfish gospels created...

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Quality of Inspiration Responsiveness

Quality of Inspiration Responsiveness

Responsive  Self-Mastery, Strength, Engaged   This force is frightening for many because we have all been preyed upon, and we are uncomfortable with assertions of strength, reflectively disowning our potency or letting it flash abusively. There is enormous power in...

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Quality of Inspiration Inventiveness

Quality of Inspiration Inventiveness

Inventiveness  Creative, Magical, Captivating   Fox is known to be inventive and resourceful, solutions coming quickly to her, miraculously pulling her from danger at the last moment. Though she is a deliberate, confident creature of the day, she is also sure of...

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Quality of Inspiration Sacred

Quality of Inspiration Sacred

Sacred  Insightful, Spacious, Sensual   Fox is grounded in Tiger energy.   Though clearly there is immense potency within her, she moves as if floating on a river current, leaving an undisturbed trail, barely bending the grasses. For this moment she has settled in...

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